Category: Wonderings
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Why would we want to save time on our joy?
Over the centuries, we’ve done a great job of outsourcing activities that we hate. If you hate it enough or have little enough time, you will pay for someone else to do it. Perhaps with some guilt, but mostly with relief. However, today’s economy has us outsourcing…our joy? Our complex, whooping, soaring joy? Have we…
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Brain walk
Today I went for a walk without my phone. I know, brave. It came about because I found myself fed up, overwhelmed and sick with myself for mindlessly scrolling. I put my phone on the kitchen table with a note to my husband, dropped a pound coin into my pocket and left the house with…
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No world for a child
I talked openly about not wanting children from about my mid-twenties. It was never an agonising decision, or even a decision at all. It just was, for both of us. Over a decade later, this choice has become a huge topic of conversation. It’s no longer unusual and I often see it talked about as…
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The Good Boys
A long time ago, I had a poem published called The Good Boys. When I wrote it, I was eulogising the good parts of the boys and men I had loved – forgiving them, absolving them. Even when they treated me like shit, they had redeeming moments that I wanted to still treasure. These years…
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Stoicism is peace
The ancient Greco-Roman philosophy of stoicism is about taking responsibility for what is in one’s control and accepting the things that are not. The serenity prayer, basically: God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. It’s about living…
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